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The Practicality of Following Your Passion

You may tell yourself that your desires are silly and frivolous like ruffles on overalls or diamonds on a poodle.  They’re unrealistic. They’re ridiculous, at your age. They’re dangerous.  They’re self-inflated.  They’re ravings-- not “clues” or signs. They’re distractions, not directions or medicine for your soul.  They’re a desperate mirage, not clear cool water at last, when you’ve been wandering in the seething desert.  Sure everyone wants to paint by the sea in Greece, but it’s not practical, you tell yourself.  But I’m here to tell you that you’re wrong. It’s not practical, in the typical mundane, grind yourself to death, factory worker, sense of the word.  It’s magical.  And let me tell you, what’s magical is practical on more levels than you know.  Let me introduce you to a few:

Passion is your Highest Potential of Financial Reward  

Consider that Oprah, Bill Gates, Warren Buffet and every multi-billionaire followed their passions.  They did not get rich by staying in soul-sucking, energy-draining jobs.  They did not get rich by ignoring their desires, but by following them.  They found their element.  Roses bloom when watered.  They shrivel in the desert. Passion is your highest potential of financial reward.  You’ll give endless hours to what you love.  You’ll demonstrate insane and unthinkable proficiency.  When you love something, you have infinite resources and energy.  You have more strength and talent than you know and our world is starving for true excellence.

I have a suggestion for you.  Start looking for examples of people you know or read about who do the work they love and make a living.  The mind is trained to look for what it believes.  If you believe “creative people starve” or “doing what you love will bankrupt you” that’s the examples you’ll see in the world.  You’ve probably heard the phrase, “what you focus on grows.”  Well focus on finding the evidence for what you really do want to see.  You want to see people thriving in the work they love. And they are everywhere my friend.  They have freedom, independence, stability, and pink cheeks.  They are role models to their children, instead of shadows passing by in the morning and night. 

Passion is Your True Security

So many of us think that money is security.  But real security is knowing that you’re going to be all right.  That’s why I don’t believe that money is security.  Your health is security.  Let me tell you, when I practiced law for an elite corporate law firm, I found myself falling into the gummy claws of depression.  Day after day, I started recognizing that I didn’t want to live.  No amount of money in my bank account mattered or would have brought me back from that black hole. 

Doing what I loved brought me back. Swimming in the Pacific Ocean off a Northern California coastline on a Wednesday brought me back.  Giving myself permission to follow my true desires, brought me back.  Trusting in God or the Universe or a Creative Calling or some Loving Force I couldn’t see or deposit in my bank account brought me back. 

Taking the journey of a lifetime gave me my life.  Don’t get me wrong, I love money.  But I’ll take soul health over a guaranteed income any day, oh yes, as though there’s such a thing as guaranteed income.  You can always make money. You can’t always make time.  My job paid well.  But it cost way too much.

As a career coach, I meet too many people who stay in the safe job, and harden the arteries around their heart or swallow a bitterness and self-abuse that later manifests in abnormal rogue cells, ovarian or lung cancer cells, a diagnosis that does not make them feel secure at all. Is your “safe job” safe-- if you feel like it’s “killing you?”  Your soul knows and it lets you know.  In This Time I Dance! Creating the Work you Love, I wrote “Your gnawing is your knowing.”  I’m not saying that everyone needs to quit their jobs.  I am saying I want everyone to follow their hearts.  We all have our own appropriate and inspired way to get there.

Passion Gives You Strength, Super Powers, and Synchronicity

Following your desires will strengthen you.  You will experience electricity.  You will feel alive.  You will love your children more, and notice how much you’d forgotten how much you liked your husband or the way the sunlight hits the salmon colored wall in your dining room. 

You are coming back to the land of the living.  There is blood pumping in your veins.  There is light in your eyes.  And what’s that weird sound?  Wait, it’s laughter. Oh yes, you haven’t heard yourself laugh in a long time.  It’s cosmic break dancing music.  It’s the sound of healing.  It’s the sound of clicking your heels three times, and knowing the solar system is finding its true alignment around you.  It’s feeling resolved and loved and seen and heard.  It’s feeling as though you do belong on this planet after all, and that somehow it’s all going to work out. 

Here’s the amusing thing.  I’ve watched some career coaching clients follow their passions and then realize they don’t need to leave their jobs.  They start playing the oboe on Wednesday nights or taking a tango class or an internet marketing seminar on the weekends.  They start tasting their lives again and feeling happy. This abundance leaks into all areas of their lives, just as sadness leaked into all areas before.  I’ve worked with clients who got raises and bonuses in their jobs, when they started doing what they loved on the side.  Some clients use their current careers to finance their emerging dreams.  They buy photographic equipment or pay for weekend coaching retreats.  Suddenly they see their careers as supporting their dreams instead of devastating them.  (Yes, and some clients absolutely, unequivocally need to leave their jobs.  And freaky deaky opportunities to support themselves come their way.  It happens all the time.  In fact every time you hear a bell, an angel got their wings…and someone found a way to pay the bills while they pursued the path their soul.)

Following one interest often helps them begin to realize others.  When they begin to listen to their souls, their soul begins to speak on all levels. They discover new desires and new strengths and capacities. Suddenly, they trust in something larger and they find breathing room and creativity they didn’t know they had. They rediscover themselves at the deepest levels. Fear recedes. And when it increases, they reinvigorate their faith and become even stronger.  

Life becomes fun again.  Anything becomes possible.  Anything is possible.

 

©2011 Tama J. Kieves. All rights reserved

Tama J. Kieves has been featured on Oprah Radio and is the bestselling author of This Time I Dance! Create the Work You Love.  She is a sought-after speaker and career coach who has helped thousands worldwide discover and live their true work in the world.  Sign up at ThisTimeIDance.com to receive the free monthly email newsletter with Tama’s latest articles (and events).  For daily inspiration, continuous support & great group conversation, join Tama on Facebook and Twitter.

 

 

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Following Your Passion

Hands down when you use fulfillment as the final measure of the quality of your life - you will ultimately reflect upon those special moments where your natural passion found focus in your day-to-day life.

This is when inspiration overtakes the limitations of your rationale and provides you with the knowingness to achieve the vision which is fueled by your passion.

-Bob

follow your passion

Tama, I was an unbeliever until this year. I've been plugging away at writing poetry and fiction, but never getting the big kick of recognition, nor any happiness, just a lot of jealousy of other writers. A few years ago a coach suggested I really was not a literary type and that maybe I wanted to write for mainstream women. Gasp! I started a blog on menopause which lead to a book draft about mid-life turmoil and through my own mid-life mini-depression while I quested and searched what to do with my life for four years, I finally published the book myself this year. I was sitting on my hands, waiting for someone to discover me. Behold, I discovered myself, and took my courage (and my destiny) into my own hands.
Thanks for the inspiring message - I love what you write and the way you write it. More people need to hear this kind of thinking, so I'm very glad your blog made it to top 50 self-help blogs.
Hopefully my Tao of Turning Fifty will reach a lot of women too, with a message that they are not alone, and not really going crazy, just on a mid-life quest for meaning and purpose.
jennifer aka Musemother

How do we know?

You make a great point in this post as well as in your book - "Your gnawing is your knowing." In your interview with Women on Purpose you talked about just starting and figure it out along the way ... which sounds great, but doesn't that waste a lot of time? And money?

I see that fear is holding me into my current situation, but my soul sucking job provides food and clothes and shelter for my 5 kids - even though it doesn't have absolute security. The thought of diving into the ocean midday Wednesday makes my soul ache with desire ... and my mind cringe at the potential consequences.

Is there a way, a path, a strategy (left-brainers, unite!!) to determining your passion in a concrete way and developing a way of shifting to it without losing your house? This way is not working, I know. I also know that my gnaw to write and create and teach doesn't seem to have any basis in the cold hard reality of landlords and car payments.

Please help ... I would rather drown in that CA ocean than under the piles of meaningless paperwork I am currently drowning in :-).

Research Methods

Studying the wealthy tells us about the wealthy. Finding strategies that work is a different study.

It may be that the poor also use the same strategies - we won't know 'til we ask them.

There are lots of poor people who live authentic lives. Some of them have not the slightest interest in becoming wealthier.